Who is a coach?

A coach is someone who can skillfully have conversations you need to have with yourself and reflect on your experiences.

A coach is skilled at having these conversations, asks you the right questions, will work with you to understand you deeply, to enable you to develop skillful ways of bringing your whole self and your individual powers to the world. He supports you to see your life, your relationships or what is most present for you with new eyes to reduce suffering and respond to the world with wisdom.

A coach is also someone who meets you. Meets you as a unique being, with openness and freshness. For most of us, we are responding (or reacting) to the world to be “legitimate”. Being legitimate at work, amongst friends and even in family. Your legitimacy is by pleasing others, conferring to people, seeking it outside. Very often, people in their life do not meet anyone who see them as legitimate. Many children grow up to constantly prove their legitimacy to even their parents.

A coaching relationship is meeting the person as is, you are legitimate already. There is no other way you are supposed to be. You do not have to earn praise from the coach. This creates a possibility of finding new parts (and many times existing but new parts) within yourself. Thus enabling you to unfold to your true being.

Leaving the coaching certifications and coach designations aside for a moment, some of you may have experienced some form of a coach in some parts of your relationships - with your boss, your teacher, your friend, your spouse, your parents, your grandparents, your siblings or yourself. In those moments, you would have experienced that they meet you for who you are. A skillful coach is someone who is able to deliberately and consistently be that lamp bearer walking alongside you, enabling you to respond to life with wisdom.